Is your toddler prone to having meltdowns? Avoid tantrums with this advice from DawnBlogtopus.
You versus Toddler. What a match!
She screams, pouts, and throws herself on the floor. You’ve gotten used to this picture, right? It’s not surprising because this is something normal and shows that your child is being a normal child doing age-appropriate actions.
You try to calm her down, but it’s you who ends up frustrated. Feel like you are doing something wrong? Don’t despair, remember that you are not alone and there is always an option. Get ready, you are going to read some advice that might help you the next time a tantrum starts.
The root of the problem
Toddlerhood is all about testing boundaries. Screaming and crying is normal and age-appropriate behavior. In the sensorimotor stage (the first two years of life) children are going to explore their senses and actions. You were doing the same when you were their age!
Piaget designated the first two years of an infants life as the sensorimotor stage. During this period, infants are busy discovering relationships betweentheir bodies and the environment. Researchers have discovered that infants have relatively well developed sensory abilities.
After two years of age (toddlers), they start to communicate with gestures and words. It is around this time when toddlers experience the feeling of “shame” and “guilt.” They want independence and, as a consequence, they create their own rules.
What can you do to help your toddler avoid tantrums?
Now that we are starting to understand the reason for the tantrums, we need to figure out a way to help and educate our children. Here are some tips that might help you navigate their world and avoid so many misunderstandings between the two of you.
First, you should anticipate your toddler’s routine. Give him advance notice 10-15 minutes before you tell him that it’s time to clean up. You should also give ample notice before it’s time to leave a place where she’s having fun. You should also give her notice in the evening at home before she needs to clean up, take a bath and go to bed.
Repeat, Repeat, Repeat
There are particular instances when young children are distracted and need multiple warnings about time, especially if they are having a lot of fun. This is especially true if they are having a playdate with a friend, out at the playground, or anywhere else that’s extra fun.
Are the Basic Needs Being Met?
Make sure that your toddler’s basic needs are fulfilled. Is she hungry? Did she have adequate nap time? Were you out and she completely skipped the nap? These are important questions, and you must consider them when it comes to a child’s routine. This simple questions can save you hours of headaches.
Set Those Boundaries
Set appropriate boundaries for your toddler and make sure they follow them. Let him know that a tantrum is not okay, and if she is not listening, she is going to lose some privileges. If she is already upset with something else, the situation can escalate, and the raise of your voice might blow things out of proportion.
I know that some people don’t believe in time out – but I am a firm believer! Of course, for non-verbal kids it doesn’t do very much good. However, for kids 2 and up, it can be very helpful as a cool-down time for both of you. Do 1 minute of time out for each year of age. It’s the fairest punishment in my eyes. For example, if my 5-year-old and my 9-year-old are misbehaving, it just makes good sense that the 9-year-old should have a tougher punishment, being 4 years older, he should know better!
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